You can get rid of bad feelings without forgiving.

Forgiving someone who isn't apologetic makes you a doormat for them to walk on over and over again.

I was able to let go of the anger etc toward my abuser. It will be a cold day in h--- before I forgive her. It's not my job to do so. I am not going to be further victimized by forgiving someone who isn't sorry for what they did.

It's interesting how everyone contorts forgiveness based on their own personal agenda. One day it's about them (people begging for forgiveness), the next day it's about you (God says you must forgive-----i.e. religious bs. Fwiw I'm Christian and my priest says that God doesn't want us to dole out automatic forgiveness.)