Its the non narcs I blame for the narcs wrapping themselves in the labels because they approach narcs and are all, " I was wounded by a narcissist (who may not have even been a narcissist) please tell me why a total stranger to you, hurt me." Non narcs are obsessed with narcs and then say they detest the grandiose sense of self, exploitation and emotional terrorism that they in many cases seek out by fixating on narcs. I never asked a narcissist for answers but I read the abuse recovery blogs and championed the support groups, so I'm just a guilty.