Again, posting only to try and be helpful - but I'm going to be blunt because I want to be clear, not because I want to be mean.


This, yes. Look, you about had a meltdown over this last night. You posted a reply to me at 9:16pm psych central time - and then another post at 9:20pm, and then another post at 9:27pm... you weren't responding to anyone you were just reiterating how lonely you felt, how you didn't have what you wanted and asking what was wrong with wanting that.

I get it - this is super important to you and you are floundering in the sea of life trying to figure out how to get out of this trap that you are in. You keep saying that people aren't understanding you and you know what, maybe you're right - but here's the thing:

Desperate people do desperate things. You say that you're not looking for just 'any guy' but I'm firmly of the opinion that your standards are dropping the more desperate you get. Not because I know you - but because it's human nature. It's like looking for a job when you're unemployed and let's say, right out of college. You start looking, but don't want a job that's beneath you. The longer you go without a job, the less jobs you start thinking of as 'beneath you'. Same way with looking for a relationship partner