My wife is a flawed person, insomuch as everyone is flawed, who loves me. As a result, she would never try to hurt me. Therefore, if she did have an affair behind my back, something would be terribly wrong with her. Frankly, I'd want to help.

To make this extremely personal, my wife is a recovering drug addict. She relapsed a couple of years back. She fought the urge without telling me what she was going through because of shame and because she thought she could beat it by herself. She lost that fight and used drugs again without telling me. And then again. And again. Then money began disappearing. Two weeks into her relapse, she told me. So, she went behind my back, she lied to me about where the money had gone and in a very real way, risked our lives. She's the type of addict that can go from one hit to death very quickly and to make matters worse, is on parole and a parole violation could very well mean being sent back to prison for life.

She did not use drugs at me. She used drugs as a desperate attempt to make undeniable and unrelenting pain go away. She didn't stop loving me. I'd come to the same conclusion if she had an affair behind my back and lied about it. Incidentally, she is clean and sober again now - two years. But if she hadn't gotten clean again, well - she'd be dead by now, but it wouldn't change my love for her.