Flooring brown, you are not being stupid. You have to ask yourself, do you still value your ex enough to want his friendship? And if you do then you are going to have to trust him and be vulnerable to being hurt again. Your new boyfriend is not working out, is it cause you are comparing him to your ex? That is not fair. Why not just take a break from both for a whole week and think of the best of each and the worse of each. Trust what your heart is telling you not your head. And go from there. We all risk trust and being vulnerable every day of our lives. You have to ask yourself, is it worth the risk to you? Think about what YOU want and JUST GO FOR IT... Blessings.. tc