To inflict pain so one cannot feel it from others is really a self fulfilling prophecy in a way. It keeps one in the cycle of pain. There are better ways to distract yourself from the thought of painful things by thinking of positive or good things. We have to condition our minds to see that we are worthy to recieve positive and good things in our lives. I find if i work on my self esteem then i am not reflecting or dwelling on painful things. I hope this helps. tc