Had an argument w/my husband. We've been married 20+ yrs. during the argument he complained that "98.5% of the time" he initiates sex.
He thinks I need to initiate sex. And that when he masturbates that I need to ask to help him.

Why this change all the sudden? What did I do?
I told that him that him initiating sex is what I'm used to after 20 yrs of marriage!

Please help me understand why the role is changing.
Thanks