A question to all you fellow introverts out there: how do you cope with the search for love? How do you "stick" with someone, despite not going out much or not talking much? How do you keep the interest alive?

From the few guys I've gotten along in my 30 yrs, only two didn't friendzone me, the one turned out to be gay and the other wouldn't shut up with the petty small talk... I just don't know how to make it work (I have ADHD too to make things worse ) I'm honestly interested in everyone's experience, but links with suggestions that could be helpful are also welcome ^^