Haha, I knew I had heard that somewhere!

What you pointed out is true. As example, when people say bad things about Michael Jackson (that I love as an artist/human being), I rarely defend him because I know if I do, I'll get called a pedophile, a gay, all sort of mean things. I think we act this way to avoid confrontation, yet, that's the hardest in the healing process, to not avoid confrontation. But after re-reading, I believe I missed the point of your post. lol

If you want to just feel, go ahead and just feel! ^^' lol People may judge you but it's that not important to explain your feelings away, what's most important is that you live your life the way you want to live it, feeling how you want to feel. Let yourself decide how you should feel, not others. You'll make ennemies no doubt but you'll be more in peace with yourself, certainly.

Hope that helps. I'm not a therapist but I did my best. :P