Firstly, I wonder how well you actually know yourself...


From what you've posted, you certainly don't seem like an introvert, shy maybe, alot shy even, but introverted, no. Not so much.


Introverts hardly, if ever desperately seek out company, people tend to sap the energy right out of us.

Kinda like an energy vampire...


People are quite psychologically draining for us, even when they're not doing anything in particular. Whereas you find it psychologically draining to be alone.... So in essence that's the polar opposite of Introversion.

The fact that you can't stand to spend much time alone with yourself seems to suggest you are much more of an extrovert, albeit it a shy one.


Secondly, how to not judge so quickly.... Its like the breath and count to 10 trick.


You have to realize that you have an active choice and say in the matter.


Decide to give people a chance, decide on how long is a fair enough chance to assess, and then by all means pass your judgment.


I was gonna say you can use the same time frame you use for BF's before sex enters the equation, but many people have sex way before they actually know each other, so rather consider how long you'd like others to give you, were they in your particular shoes.


You need to actively choose to be different, decide on a method, and then commit to it, and remember to keep practicing it.


Bad habits die hard.