I don't believe support should always be wrapped in a pretty bow.


That's just not realistic for certain situations.

Imagine an abused woman is posting about how her hubby beat her to a pulp yet again, but its ok really, its all her fault this time around because his dinner wasn't ready when he walked through the door...


What am I supposed to say to that? "Its ok hun, go ice your face, put on some make up and be sure to start half an hour earlier tomorrow." ???

IS THAT SUPPORT????


Because if it is, then I certainly don't want it!!!!


Its also important to take into consideration, that sometimes the bows are distracting and the support is then completely overlooked.


That being said, its not a very popular approach and not really welcomed by many.


Not everyone can stomach info minus sugar coating.


What did Mary Poppins sing... "Just a spoon full of sugar makes the medicine go down...."


But the mods haven't chased me (or others) off as they understand that just because it isn't a and a "there there" doesn't mean it wasn't supportive or that it was sent with malicious intent.


I think that if you're brave enough to open yourself up to this kind of community, you have to be brave enough to come across some ugly truths. Truths that others may be able to see clearer than you, not because they're a Mr Know It All, not because you're in denial, but because they've either walked an extremely similar path, or can simply see the trees beyond the leaves.


And I'll say this, for all the people that have given me flack, accused me of being harsh, or direct or too blunt, and almost made me feel bad for my posting style and have me second guessing myself....


Its worth it when every once in a while, a member goes, "wow, I appreciate you being straight with me, you've given me food for thought, thanks".


They make it all worth it.