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Originally Posted by ciderguy
I don't, by any means, believe that "telling off" and "healthy criticism" are the same thing, however.
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But I do, that's why I wrote so. I have had plenty of people in my life who used the term "Healthy Criticism" when emotionally abusing me, so I am talking out of experience.
"Healthy criticism" or "constructive criticism" are terms that triggers me somehow. I see red when people use it. Go figure... maybe one more reason why I'm making use of this site.
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Originally Posted by ciderguy
if they come here and we don't want to appear as a "Mr. Know It All," is it our place to play "Mr. Know Nothing" and agree that red is blue, to forget what the poster wrote ang glibly post a sort of "Have a nice day!  " encouragement, critique the reasoning, or just delete anything you may have written because it would be "thoughtless" to point out in-your-face contradictions? |
I prefer to simply admit that I don't have all the answers or enough knowledge or experience to pitch in.
Sometimes, "Have a nice day" is all the person on the other side really needs to hear (or read). So I try to restrain myself to that answer.
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Originally Posted by ciderguy
You did a good job of explaining why one shouldn't respond to a post but nothing to suggest why you would respond. I don't know you, I don't follow anyone here, but am I to assume that because you "really don't know" what's going on in someone else's mind that you don't respond at all?
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I try to only answer to posts when I can relate to what the person is talking about, and when I can share my experiences, sometimes as an attempt to help myself too, maybe exchange some ideas, maybe get something useful out of it in the end.
I don't know how to fix everything I see and everything I think is wrong.
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Originally Posted by ciderguy
God knows I am not trying to start any dissension. I'm trying to figure out the "rules". I know that I first came here because I am close, again, to insanity. I am dreadfully lonely, confined to my room for both mental and physical reasons, on and on. At present, my mind is twisted but not broken. I have periods of delusions, loss of lucidity, memory loss, etc. But I am lucid now and asking a question.
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And in answering to your post, I think I proved my own point.
I didn't know nothing of what you're going through, and like you, most people simply don't reveal their struggles until after someone throws in an answer, so in this case I would be better off just skipping your post rather than answer to it.
I commited this mistake many times, and it seems I never learn...
Anyway, what is done is done, and I'm sorry if I disturbed or made you angry you in any way.