I had an email discussion with a female minister friend of mine, who knows this male minister (D), and my friend has 'reservations' based on our personalities-she said he is a deep thinker with a high IQ (so I assume she thinks I'm stupid). I wish I never had mentioned it to her, now I am doubting myself again and I don't need more of that. I am an intelligent person, in that I have a college degree and I am a certified legal assistant and passed a 2 day test for that. So I have linguistic intelligence. I don't understand how another person can tell me who is and who is not a match for me. Isn't that up to the two people in the relationship, not to an outsider?