Thank you all for the feedback. I have apologized to the women involved and have considered approaching their spouses, but I would not like to create more wounds than I have already, considering these occurred over 15 years ago. I certainly have learned a massive lesson and would never consider committing such stupid actions again. As for self pity, I'm not too sure. I actually believe that I deserve no pity and find great difficulty in forgiving myself. I had the idea that time would heal all but it seems to be getting more difficult as time goes by. Thank you though, for the support. I am making a concerted effort to become a "good citizen" and hopefully I can put into practice what you suggest. Regards.