I wrote a longer piece somewhere on the bipolar forum, but can't find it. So here's a shorter version, though still too long. A summary of my boundaries is, I grew up in a dysfunctional, emotionally and physically abusive family, particularly my dad. So I learned not to set boundaries. My school and actual local community were also very, very rigid. Late in life, I have been learning, and HAVE learned how to set boundaries I never cross. Three of them are, NOBODY is allowed to yell at me. Ever! The second one is, I won't be blamed for something that I did not do, or that is untrue. The third one is I don't like people to be rude or emotionally/verbally aggressive towards me. As for the second one, four of the people who accused me or someone or a group, of something that was untrue/unreal had dx's of paranoia. I've had several experiences with women in the past 3-4 years, where they did just that. Either directly to me, or about another person or persons/groups. I got tired of this, and dropped these people. The third category has become a problem for me with two political activist groups I've been in. One during the last 3 years; another similar situation in another political group about 15 years ago. I spent too much time listening to others' problems, for several months each one. I was kind, gentle, very supportive, nice to them. Finally, I ended the relationships, or dropped out of the activist groups. The political groups were the worst. In each one, one of the group's women screamed at me and blamed me for "abandoning" the "cause" they were working on, and "abandoning" her, PERSONALLY. They screamed at me on the phone, non-stop so I could not speak rationally to them. Has anyone here had such extreme responses to you when you state your personal limits/boundaries?