She was living alone for the past 10 years and she is making tiny steps to change things. I don't know about encouraging her to do something... It might end up being something she doesn't want or like and the blame is on me again. I am starting to think that maybe she is just fine with the way her life is now.

Regarding listening her talk about work... Again, it's a conversation I just sit through. I don't know what bothers me about it. Maybe I just don't like the her attitude towards things. She doesn't seem to like a lot of people. She makes a lot of assumptions and then takes those assumptions for the truth. Once she said that a male colleague of hers who was living with his parents in his 40s must be seeing prostitutes... Because he is a man in his 40s living with his parents. And then she said that a male acquaintance of mine who was in his mid-30 must be seeing prostitutes... because he is a single man in his mid-30. Her stories are largely based on assumptions rather than facts and I don't really like that.

Changing the subject usually works well.