Just got off the phone with her. She called me to thank for the presents. She made me feel bad again. The conversation was nice right up until she assumed that I broke something at my in-laws' place (something broke there, but I had nothing to do with it). I asked why would she assume that I would break something. She started bringing up times when I would spill a drink or drop something. She would bring up specific examples that I don't even remember anymore. I told her that such small things happen (like spilling a drink) and there is nothing one can do about it. Then she said that I spill drinks and drop things more often than other people and that it's her job to criticize me about it. I reminded her that she wouldn't know that because we don't live together and I asked her if she thinks that I like being criticized about something so insignificant. She said that she knows that I hate it, but if she doesn't criticize me then who else will? So she's doing me a favor.

I don't drink, don't smoke, don't do drugs, don't do anything harmful to myself or others. So she criticizes me for dropping things and spilling drinks. I mean, seriously.

Again, I didn't snap and I didn't say anything impolite. But I am shaking inside. She is making me feel bad on purpose - she knows I don't like it and she is still doing it. And I should be thankful apparently.

I made her a present. I don't say anything mean to her. Why is she doing this to me? Does she think that it will bring us closer if she makes me angry?

Ok, lesson learned - next time she asks me if I broke something I change the topic.