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Originally Posted by Hedgeleaf
I just feel like a total idiot. I get him a gift for his daughter as she asked to do it, I'm wondering if she asked him to get one for me?
It just hurts. I can see everyone laughing at me for something I didn't even do. I feel like I'm doing all this FOR HIM (which it is) and get nothing in return
I know i should expect nothing from and ex but I'm not a bad person people think that I am
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Stop beating yourself up. If she did ask him and he didnt. Well thats on him.
You have no control over what he does!
You need to move on and live your life. A BETTER life for you and your daughter.
Stop caring what he or his family think. That hurts YOU not them.
Your goal in leaving him was to better your life I assume. You are stuck and that better life you wanted wont come if you stay in this mindset.
I am talking from experience leaving an abusive alcoholic when I had no job and a 13 yr old boy. Did I think for one minute I was doing the wrong thing? Yes for 18 months prior to leaving.
When I left though. Swept my hands clean. Ignored him, ignored every nasty lie he spewed. You know why? Because I knew the truth. People who knew me and loved me knew the truth. Thats all that mattered. Thats all that should matter.
His bs put me ip for 14 days. Never again and its been almost 7 years.
Pick yourself up. Dust yourself off. Say ef u to his family. Be cordial to him for your daughters sake but dont for one minute think he owes you or you owe him.
Thats for the lawyers to deal with. Unless you get an uncontested divorce without child support.
Or, this just dawned on me, are you hoping for a reconciliation? In which case all of what anyone has said to you doesnt matter does it?
Strength. Courage. I wish you luck in whatever you have ahead of you.