Hello and welcome to Psych Central. I am sorry for your loss. the best thing that you can do at this time is to focus on yourself and try not to worry about what your daughter is doing continually. You have been through a traumatic ordeal and your daughters behavior is a trigger to you in your emotional state at this time. Taking medication and getting therapy helps a lot to ease the discomfort of loss. Just try to stay openminded about your daughter but keep your boundaries to keep yourself Safe as well. I hopethings get better for you soon. .Take care, soidhonia