Hi Wants2Fly,

It is very sad that your ex only took a snapshot out of your life to make his judgement on. He didn't even give you a chance to adjust to your diagnosis.

Considering how you felt about him & the things you did for him, he was very lucky to have you. I'm sure if you ever find another man that is attracted to you for who you are (& you are attracted to him), he will fall in love with your sensitivity, kindness, humor, & yes, intelligence is very attractive. It takes time for a relationship to grow after being burned once, but it is possible if it is right. Never say never!!!!! Don't be satisfied with a "frisky" relationship.

You are not worthless or "filled" with hate & bitterness. It may be there a little due to your experiences, but it "is not you". Like your T said, it is only one persons opinion. You show us who you are here & I can guarantee, you are an extremely valuable person.

One thing you might consider about other long relationships is that sometimes even though couples are together after all that they have gone through, there was nothing there to start with. It can be that they are just too lazy to do anything about ending the relationship or don't want to lose the things you did.

Sometimes it looks good from outside, but if you were "a fly on the wall", the view would be so much different. When there is nothing there, the time will come when there is nothing to lose, that the relationship will end also. (I'm going through this right now with a 30 yr marriage).

Don't be hard on yourself. You are valuable.
Debbie