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TryingToCope said:
my husband has put me down for many years now. I'm nothing more than a maid to him.

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Hm, that is really bad. At this point, what you need is emotional detachment. If you feel you need support from one who has prooved to be a source of blame, you must stop waiting from validation from that part. I don't suggest to divorce, but it is vital to detach from your H emotionally. If depression was heart disease, a person like your husband is like cigarettes. You have to quit.
I realize fully how this can be DIFFICULT. But you need it in order to stop you life from sucking. You can't do it alone, you need therapy.

I really wish you the best of luck