I'd say I felt mostly stronger, sort of healed in many ways. I did feel some sadness too. But overall, in time, it felt a little as though I'd taken back a power that was mine but which I'd lent to her for a while.

Just for myself, I do find days, moments, when the old painful feelings of transference return. But I can get myself back on track more easily and I think that happens because I understand what, why, how it's happening. Being compassionate and patient with myself is a big part of it too.

It's different for everyone of course - it took me years to work through some very painful experiences involved in transference. It was a very turbulent time! Hang in there and be gentle and kind to yourself.