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Originally Posted by lunatic soul
Sorry i cant understand what you mean by saying this.
I will try to explain. We mostly were texting also about sex.
Then he confused me by saying its wrong but at the same time asked me to send him a pic of me naked which i didnt. He said that we are not together so he can think about other women too. I felt hurt and jealous and gone mad.
He said he doesnt want relationships with me only sex but it would be wrong.
He wanted to stop our conversations.
I felt like a fool who believed he is interested in me more then only sex object because it seems he would like to f*** my friend too.
Its be okay if man wants sex with me, it hurts when man simply wants sex but could f*** my attractive friends too. Okay he didnt say so because he doesnt like to answer to some questions.
I think i dont feel anything anymore, my feelings were sexual but also emotional, i dont think i need him.
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That's the thing. When you're wired to self harm as a coping skill, unhealthy, but still not out of the blue in recovery, being around toxic individuals is as triggering as it gets.
Predatory on his part, even if unknowingly on his own levels, because he's seen your pain/wounds and he needed to take care with you without selfish behavior. Telling you a darn thing about other women falls into its own category of unhealthy behavior.
It's up to you to self care. Of course, it's a blow to your esteem because as humans we know innately, albeit most often subconsciously that we deserve healthy companionship.
Be gentle and kind to yourself, 'k.
He might be older, but it doesn't mean that he's reached maturity.
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