I agree with kindness..honestly I don't think there is really a person that doesn't have something going on with them that wouldnt be considered a mental illness or disorder. Shoot when I was trying to sort out what I had been dealing with for 33 years in my bad marriage I was pointed to Asperger's & in researching that it not only described my x-H but also my dad....& social anxiety made my mother the dysfunctional person she was....they behaved the way they did with or without a dx....so take away the label it doesn't make them any less dysfunctional because of their behavior....people are what they are label or not it's just that the label gets them help to learn skills they are missing in order to live a more functional life without everyone having to deal with the dysfunction which usually has very negative consequences not just because people don't just accept them the way they are....those ways usually are causing personal problems or no one would bother to notice.