Quite commonly people think of sex as an event and they have a fairly narrow conception of what that event consists in. There is a variety of sexual activity, though, from hugging and cuddling and pecking on the cheek all the way up to penetration.

You shouldn't have to participate in anything that doesn't feel right to you. Sometimes it can pay to go a bit slower than you would like, even, because sometimes you can feel a bit differently in the morning from how you feel at the time.

I guess that one of the functions of sexual activity is to help people feel connected and closer to each other. I mean, sometimes it can be a kind of recreational fun and / or a form of release and if it occurs against a backdrop of a caring relationship that can be quite fun, but people often don't want their first encounters to be like that.

I would say... To be a little creative and have some fun figuring out things that you can both enjoy doing where both of you feel comfortable in doing it. Masterbation, mutual masterbation etc and sorts of things that aren't quite 'sex' in the traditional sense, but surely count as kinds of sexual activity, for example.

(Remember to be careful about fluids and stuff)