You're not alone. I feel as if I'm in a similar situation.....I'm trying to figure out a way to get the old me back. The relationship is over as far as he's concerned. My low self esteem and lack of confidence is holding me back, but I'm not sure what else. I will sit there and tell myself I need to go workout, but will never get up to do so. What aspects of life are you struggling with right now? I'm trying to find some "trick" to help me find the path to happiness again...for me...trying to find where I made a wrong turn. I know you can't dwell on the past, but I think it's important to discover what changed so you can try to overcome it if faced with it again in the future. I know I'm just ranting an not really helping you. I do hope that we both (and anyone else who needs it) can fall in love with ourselves, so we can live a fruitful life as best as we can.