Make a list of what you want to get out of this session, what things are negotiable and what your absolute drop dead limits are and line them in red so you don't go below.

Keep telling yourself that you cannot control the ex, you cannot make this person different.

Let your lawyer do most of the talking and breathe deeply. If you become upset, focus on your seat, your body, feel yourself sit in the chair and feel your hands on the ams of the chair. Look at your hands and take deep breaths.