Really seems like your desperation to avoid isolation clouds your judgment to an excessive degree.
Everything you post about this guy is red flag central, yet you continue to try and justify his disrespectful and assholian behaviour, despite members taking the time to point out that he's bad news.
I.just.dont.get.it
As a side note, I find it really strange that you like to play the numbers game with potential lovers.... I don't see how comparing notes and number of exes help a potential romance to bloom. You may want to rethink that strategy of yours.