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Originally Posted by Rose76
No, you are not being used . . . except as an admired role-model. Some people just never succeed at quitting pernanently. It's not a reason to "be done" with someone. Do you require that all your friends be non-smokers?
Now, if you are tired if being her quit-buddy, then just relinquish that role. But do it nicely. Tell her you hope she can eventually succeed, but that you being her quit-buddy is not really working and, so, she needs to use other techniques. What those should be is for her to figure out.
She is struggling and not just looking for attention. If you are tired of hearing about her struggle, then you can disengage from that.
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Thanks for the advice. Remember that we met as "quit buddies" and on a quit smoking site, so that was the basis of the friendship. At this time I have no friends who smoke, and to be perfectly honest I would not make "new" friends with a smoker. It's like when people quit drinking. They don't usually hang out with drinkers because it might be a temptation, or it just isn't fun. My family members who smoked are now dead. I agree with you that she is struggling, and I am happy to hear your opinion that she is not just seeking attention. I guess I have talked to her so much about quitting I really don't have anything more to add, and I may just write her and wish her good luck. We met as "quit buddies" and other than that our lives don't have a lot in common, so I guess it's a specific kind of friendship. I don't feel like sharing all the details of my life with her.