Thank so much everyone for your thoughts on this. It means a lot to me.

I do, of course, cook and offer whatever I have. I really have no issue with that at all. I made and served my mom a cake (she's diabetic and dearly misses sweets) this afternoon. She loved and appreciated it.

I really, really don't know why it bothers me... I feel stupid for asking about something so minor...Jeez. I could smack myself upside the head....

Perhaps I simply want the courtesy of "is it okay if I fix myself something?".