MP and Bud Fox. I need to add just a few details which may or well may not be resonant to you. About 6 months in he was clearly trying to seduce me. I am not some silly naive kid with a daddy complex. It remained the elephant in the room for a couple of years. I had a huge financial downturn and could no longer afford him. We spoke of it a lot, finally deciding that he would fit me in when he could but could not give me a fixed time. Fine. So it was erratic, but we texted a lot and went through huge ups and downs as the intensity scared the **** out of us. He more actively sought out "consummation" (who the hell even uses that term anymore)? As much as I had fantasized about it I knew the potential for absolute ruination to my psyche. At least I averted that. I also did something, at a low point, very cruel and public that could have ruined his family and his business. He forgave me, unbelievably; but unless I knew for certain that someone was a predator I would NEVER do it again. I know that we both bear scars, but ultimately he was unable/unwilling to be honest as he slowly alternately blew me off and (ever less frequently) drew me in.
I had recently moved back from Europe when me met. My mother had just died and my marriage was in shambles, and I had 2 young kids one diagnosed on the spectrum. He was recommended by a friend who said that he was the only therapist she'd seen who did not use sexual overtones. Go figure. I have another close friend seeing him now, and has benefited tremendously. I would never throw shade on that for her. So it feels like everybody is hunky-dory except for me in my emotional isolation.