as my oldest sister says, "i can make a decision, it may be the wrong one but i can make it".....she really makes me laugh with her observations about herself now. and i agree with her on that observation. same for me.

i can usually make a decision and if it turns out to be wrong, i try to not beat myself up too much about that.

on the home improvements, follow your gut instincts. years ago a carpenter was hired "because he's the best in town"...well, i started noticing things....he and his crew arrived too early in the morning and then justified leaving early...they weren't doing that much.....he argued with me, and the head carpenter, about things that didn't concern him......i went over this in my head one day and said to myself, "you didn't like him from day one, listen to that".....he finally blew up about something (that day) that the head carpenter told his crew to do and i fired him. best decision that we could have made.....always pay attention to your first impression of someone, especially a worker that you're depending upon to do the right thing by you.

i put off going to the doctor and taking care of myself. and going to the grocery store.....will do laundry every day, but not eat.....how much good does that do me?

i applaud your decision concerning your husband. i've sensed for a long time that you were headed that way. i hope it makes your life much less stressful, and, more for you.....nothing should be just about one person........
xoxoxo pat