I agree with you Rose to some extent. I agree about integrity.

But then again life is too short to be miserable. There are more reasons to marry than being madly in love but if one is so miserable that she only stays because he is sick then is this good enough reason to marry?

I still feel guilty I left my alcoholic BF of 9 years and I know he drinks worse now plus other health issue. Did I have to stick around becoming a total mess losing my mind? I do a lot of things out of guilt. Yet who can demand I devote my life to alcoholic.

As about op, it might feel she must stick around as he is sick but by doing that she might deprive him from meeting a woman who would not have doubts. No need to be a martyr here. There are women who have no trouble marrying a man with health issues.

I am engaged and if in the horrible scenario something happened to my fiancée I would certainly not abandon him. I made a commitment ( even if not formal) but I also have no doubts about him whosoever and am not miserable. Op has been quite unhappy with this man for a long time and she has been posting for awhile about it. This is not a new development.

I agree about commitment but they aren't married yet and she is not happy already. Regardless of his health condition. This is only going to get worse unless of course couples therapy Will be helpful

I probably make no sense. I just know I lived my life doing things out of guilt and obligations. There is more to life than that

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