Damn him. And people like him, male or female. It's the whole, "I promise not to do that." Then they do it,anyway (whatever it is, porn or other). Where is the integrity? If you know you can't/won't stop doing something that really upsets your partner, then you have no right to promise to do so. A common refrain is "Well, I had to lie because I didn't want to upset you or lose you . . ." Not only lacking integrity, but a display of immaturity by reframing the issue of how they were thinking of your feelings (when they were just being selfish and thinking of themselves.) Ugh.

So, yeah, there is the issue of porn viewing - is it right/wrong, good/bad. To me, that argument is just a distraction from the core issue.

Perhaps the reason why people who hated porn in the past now like it is because it resolves the cognitive dissonance they feel when trying to reconcile their dislike/personal beliefs with the risk of losing a mate or future mates . . .

Sorry, Reallyhurting. The untruthfulness would cause me a great deal of pain, as well.