I just wrote a long-*** message. It disappeared....Oh well, the short version.

I get the feeling of vulnerability..(will he think I'm an ax murderer because I like ice-cream!?!?!). Extreme example, perhaps.

I have learned to "separate" my gut reaction from my analytical reaction. Not that one is better than the other. Or more right. But I think it's important to recognize both, separately.

As far as "When I go with my gut, apparently I make up my mind before the question is done - and subsequent information in the sentence is disregarded"....Don't forget, too, that you have peripheral vision. Your mind will pre-read even though you are not aware. And your brain will process what it "sees". This is key, really.

Sorry that I'm not much help.