And: a Representative Payee will pay your bills, then send you personal needs money which your husband will control, and your situation won't differ. Unless you get someone like your parents who will be on your side. Also - losing control of your money will seriously upset your husband.

Unfortunately, control freaks don't usually want to grow and change with us. When I began to assert my personal rights to my first husband, we ended up divorced. He didn't want me to think for myself. It took years for me to recover from the deep insecurity I had accepted from his verbal abuse and control. I was angry at myself for years after the divorce- angry at him too, but mostly angry at myself for not loving myself enough to want the best for me.

Be your own best friend.