You wanted to scream at your husband, but it seems to me that you ended up saying nothing. So he doesn't know how disappointed you are. Screaming would have been uneffective too, as a mean to communicate your feelings. You probably feel that husband should be more sensitive, and you are angry because he isn't, but you won't communicate your anger until it will burst out in a meaningless rant.

Now, sorry to sound patronizing, but it was just to point out that you need therapy. Cognitive therapy is exactly about these type of issues. I know, you don't have insurance, but I don't think you are going to solve these problems without a T.

Uhm, sorry that my tips are expensive to put in practice... as a more cheap help you may read Richard O'Connor's "Undoing Depression". It's the best book about depression I've read and deals extensively with marriage.