Deew12,

Think really hard on this. Is this someone you can see yourself living the rest of your life with happily? I would say for me, no! I wish, wish, WISH my friends had told me "Get out, now!" before my ex and I got married. Now, because I stuck with a futile effort, I deal with depression and anxiety. I have a hell of a time trusting the guys I date, no matter how genuine they are. When I left my ex, one of my best friends (without missing a beat) said "It's about damn time. He treated you like crap!"

Tell her you want to hold off on getting married. It's easier to just simply "break up" than it is to get divorced. One involves a lawyer, the other is just boxes, and that new car you deserve. See how she reacts. She sounds to me like a bit of a Narcissist, maybe something else, which at this point, you should mosey over to these forums:

Partners of People with Personality Disorders - Forums at Psych Central

Do not let this person damage you. Your friends care. She apparently does not. YOUR FRIENDS CARE! Take control of your situation. From reading your other posts, this could LITERALLY kill you. This is your health we are talking about. Believe it or not, Psychological health has a huge impact of your physical health.

Constant nightmares means less sleep. Less sleep means you do not have the mental capacity to deal with stressful situations. Diminished mental capacity can get dangerous. Please think of yourself. Does she make YOU happy, and can you see yourself living with her for the rest of your life?

Sorry for being blunt, but I really wish someone would have been as blunt with me.