my wife was a small town girl , she was shy , backwards , "not pretty by most standards" , skinney , not well educated , mousey ... those were her good qualities ... my voc ed teacher set us up because he knew in her small town she had no chance to meet anyone ... it was arranged for us to meet with out it being a date so no pressure if we did not click ... I fell in love the second I saw her ... we dated six months then married .. we were both virgins on our wedding night ... her 21, me 25 ... we have been married 33 years ... it can happen ... be yourself ... that is what is attractive ...