September Morn -- I sympathize with your anger. My brother treats my mom like s**** and she's in her eighties. She'll complain to me and say, "But don't say anything to him. I don't want him to be upset." His daughter was raised not to acknowledge in any way my mother or me as her grandmother and aunt.

My brother didn't speak to us for 7 years bec. his now ex-wife didn't like us, so that's why mother is so scared that he might not speak to her again. I cried over that a long time ago. I'm done crying. My mother feels so hurt that she missed seeing her one and only grandchild grow up (she's 27 now), so I can understand how you feel about the grandkids. I don't think mom ever got over this.

Your son is being a big poopyhead. So there.