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Originally Posted by BudFox
This is almost verbatim my experience. I got a begrudging and coerced apology, and a shaky acknowledgment that possibly significant harm was done. But she was interspersing these things with assertions that therapy had helped me, that she had put me back together sufficiently before abandoning me, that it was because she cared. She had to control the narrative and the endings. The endings were always like a gun to the head -- say what you need to say, when the conversation is over that is it, no more contact ever. Even if it was traumatic to end that way, tough s**t because she is in charge and because she wanted to make sure the narrative/fantasy was in tact. Infantilizing and humiliating.
Same here. Sorry you are in this position. It is a terrible feeling.
She basically haunts my consciousness 24/7. I even dreamed about her last nite.
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I was constantly reminded of all of the kind and generous things he did for me. Every. Single. Time. Very occasionally, if I had an extraordinary amount of luck, I would get "I'm sorry you
feel that I hurt you". Once or twice in over fifteen years I got a mumbled apology during the exit hug. I feel very sorry for his wife, he must be a beast to live with....he even told me once that he only married her because he knew she would be a good mother....if that is not cold then Buffalo is tropical....