((((((((Beth)))))))))

I felt like I lived your story right along with you. Sorry those things have happened to you. This guy is abusive. He must have learned those behavior patterns growing up, but that doesn't mean that you have any obligation to be subjected to it. You have been hurt enough. Also, you have gone to therapy and worked on getting better. Not only does he not seem to be working on his own problem, but it sounds like he doesn't support you in your recovery either. I know that he made you feel good at one time, and maybe still does sometimes, but if he really loved you he wouldn't be hurting you and making threats to control you and keep you around in between. There is someone better out there for you. You'll see.

Good luck to you, and I hope that you stay around and keep talking to us here!

Wendy