You're welcome and I hope you're able to read b/t the lines and my (somewhat) candid ability to "tell it like it is."

I noticed there were quite a few "should's" throughout this thread. It seems like there are a lot of things you feel like he "should" be doing, or getting or saying. I'm curious where these "should" standards came from? Could they have possibly come from your own expectations that perhaps he is unaware of? Maybe he'd be capable of responding differently if he knew what you expected? and though you say you expected him to react the way he did, I think sweetie, if you're honest with yourself, you know you really didn't expect it. And that's why it's so painful right now.

I read once. . .I forget which course. . .that we TEACH people how to TREAT us. I would imagine T's fall into the category of people, and they're really quite like those they serve. If you don't believe that, ask Pink or Sky or any of the rest of us who work in social services. Everybody's got *****, you know? Could it be possible, that by communicating with him your desire to have him respond a certain way, you might teach him a better way?

On the other side of this coin, you gotta remember it's a MAN you're dealing with too. We all know how MEN are. . .c l u e l e s s unless you spell it out for them!