Interesting questions Gracey - I'll admit you've really got me thinking (something fun to do when I'm mechanically packing all of my room, sigh).

I like your ability to tell it like it is.

"Should"... hmmm... maybe I'm placing the same things I've received from previous T's as expectations on this one. Also I've got this problem with the word "should"... I use it a LOT on myself. One previous T told me to stop "should-ing" myself. I use it a lot and it tends to do more detriment than good. Maybe that's something I should work on.

I should have expected that he'd do something I didn't expect, that's what I meant. lol. He's full of surprises... the type of T that I can't actually consciously lie to if I don't want to talk about something. He sees through it. He does keep me on my toes though...

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we TEACH people how to TREAT us

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Good to remember. You'd think with the fact I am going for my BA in Psych that I'd be able to apply what I learn... doesn't seem to be that way. If I'm teaching people the way I should be treated... I'm surprised I'm not treated more poorly than I am.

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Could it be possible, that by communicating with him your desire to have him respond a certain way, you might teach him a better way?

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Maybe. Worth a shot anyways.

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On the other side of this coin, you gotta remember it's a MAN you're dealing with too. We all know how MEN are. . .c l u e l e s s unless you spell it out for them!

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First time with a male T and I'm already finding it different... is it odd that this guy actually ran a women's self-esteem group? He did, and he was actually really good at it. lol

Thank you