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I hate the fact he has an agenda for me. HATE IT. My therapy... MINE. Unless it's going to help me, I'd rather just go with the flow. Am I being ridiculous for saying that?

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canders, I have been to both a counselor and a therapist and neither had an "agenda" for me. They always let me choose the topics. Especially my current therapist has told me that only I know what I need to heal and so must choose the path. It was scary at first to always be responsible for my own therapy, but I came to find it empowering. He trusts me to choose the path toward my healing. And he comes with me and helps me along the way with all his skill and empathy. He does make suggestions, of course. For example, he suggested last time that it might be useful to do some more EMDR and he invited me to do EMDR again at my next session. We talked about that a little and I accepted his suggestion. So it's kind of give and take. Some Ts are more directive than others, and they probably vary this depending on the client. So don't be scared to speak up and state your needs. (What's always been interesting to me is early in my therapy, my T told me he tends to be more directive than many therapists. But I find him very non-directive!)