Hi Sinking

I know it can be SO hard to let go of negative coping strategies, especially when they actually work in the moment for you
But you are already making an excellent start.........."but im trying and the first option is writing here", you're SO right you do need strategies better/healthier to replace them with. And writing here......letting out how you feel/your problems and getting ideas/support is one great replacement.
AND you've decided "to quit"!!!! Good on you!!!
So replacing the negative strategies..........maybe you need some more immediate strategies like exercise, going for a walk, punching a pillow if you're mad or feeling urges............and some one's you can work on building/practicing like ways to tackle negative thoughts, mindfulness, working of any self esteem issues.............., changing things in your life/life style that may be causing you problems.................
And I know it can be real hard, it can take LOTS of practice/persistence, you may slip at times, but it can be SO worth it........it can be done
And like I said you're already making an excellent start!!!
But just one more thought for now...........you mentioned drinking...........although that was a "used to" maybe you could still get some support from AA as well with coping strategies...........maybe even online meetings/support groups???



Alison