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Originally Posted by Perna
I think a lot of it is in one's head? You use to enjoy it, now you don't, you enjoy it more here -- that's not necessarily about Facebook or here but about you and how you relate to the site and the other people you know on each site, where you are in your life with yourself now?
I had thousand of friends on Facebook, played a whole lot of the games "professionally" (paid money to get ahead) and got tired of it one day and deleted all friends who were not relatives or "real" friends and sent the relatives/real friends an email explaining I would not be on as often anymore. I "went away" for quite awhile after that but now I visit Facebook every day or two and enjoy my interactions with my sons, cousins, brothers, and friends, etc. I know them and that they care, we correspond on other sites and in regular email, etc. and it is just a nice support and way to keep up with far-flung lives.
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You're right. I never really was able to relate to a lot of people, was never 'popular'. I always had only a few very close friends, boyfriends.
Also like you, I see my relatives on there. Most of them live very far and we rarely get together in person, so it's nice to see what they're doing. Although that causes drama because my mother is on there and can't stand to see how her grandchildren post intimate, embarrassing details about their lives; like they are drunk, fighting with their boyfriends, hate their bosses, etc... They'd be better off doing that on here! But instead their air their dirty laundry and all their friends comment on it. We're talking about 30 year olds.
There are these groups pages about the town where I grew up and my family is all over it. My mom posted all my baby pictures! My mom told every family story! I had to make sure none of my passwords were related to anything she revealed.
She's the one I suspect is a narcissist. Doesn't it sound like one to document everything about her life online? Why do I care?
I do like maintaining the connection to the people I like.
Connecting mind to mind with another person is very satisfying to me. Listening and being heard, exploring ideas.
I guess I'm at a loss for the things I can say on Facebook. It has to be wholesome enough and benign. The mix of the different groups of people stifled me.