That must be so hard! I think that one's daily life does often get in the way of healing from past wounds. It's the immediate, high stress daily life stuff that pushes in on us and needs immediate attention. One thing I do know about trauma work is that you need to be in a pretty safe place in your immediate life in order to effectively deal with those old wounds. I'm guessing that perhaps your therapist recognizes that and he/she is hesitant to delve into the deep end of the trauma ocean when you're struggling so hard to stay afloat on just day-to-day issues.

Is there any chance you can go more than once a week. I do know people who decided on a twice a week routine and designated one day to work on coping skills and day-to-day issues and then used the second day to focus on past trauma. But whatever you decide, I can certainly understand your frustration!