My adult dd and I had an argument on the phone. It started out a normal conversation abt her sons school, auto issues, etc. Every comment I made was met with a demeaning and argumentative tone. It's not new. Even grandson has observed, "You're her mother, why is she telling you what to do?"

I called her back and said the demeaning, argumentative comments have to stop, now!

She says she's tired, has a cold, and basically....she said- my parents (her grand parents) treated me(pre) this way since she was little (and they did) so it's not her fault...that 95% of the time these are the kinds of responses I should expect from her.

I'm done. She can disagree with me all she wants but she doesn't have to try to demean me in the process. I deserve respect. I'm not taking it anymore.

I'm still hurt, angry and depressed.
I feel self destructive..I don't know why...maybe because I'm so ANGRY.