Beth - I wish I could put a stop to this innate wish we have for our parents to be someone they are not. But I can't. We do have it though - most, if not all of us. I know I do. I wish my father loved me, but he doesn't. Bummer me. I can't change that. All I CAN change is my expectation for his love. So, that's all I can offer. Maybe work on that? Work on your expectation for her to change into someone she may not be capable of being?

I think it's completely natural for us to expect our parents to be nuturing...that's their dang job,...but it turns out that a lot of them just may not have been qualified (This is usually because their own parents stunk at the job) I can't speak for you, but that's how I feel about mine. They just were not capable.

emmy